Updated: Jun 27
Story by Ragini Agarwal
After I decided to detach from a toxic emotional attachment, I felt really lonely for a long time. I realised that I was not accustomed to being with myself, and this particular incident further escalated the feeling of not being good enough.
I wondered whether I was not beautiful and desirable enough for a committed relationship.
Even people close to me unintentionally commented and questioned me about my singlehood. It sometimes saddens me to watch people posting pictures with their partners on social media.
Whenever I would speak about being single on social media, people asked me to avoid it because they thought being single implied that one was perhaps desperate for a partner.
However as time passed I realised that the inadequacy did not lie within me. It was actually quite the opposite.
I was clear about what I wanted and I looked at committing to a partner as a responsibility which I did not wish to take lightly. And I was ready to do that with the right person.
Throughout I was supported by my friends and family. I started looking inwards and stopped shying away from being single. Spending time with my own self and enjoying things with my own company allowed me to explore, grow, and learn. Initially, it wasn’t a choice but something that was unavoidable at the stage but I am happy that it happened.
Earlier I was a salaried employee with a 9 to 5 job which did give me some satisfaction but I always felt like something was amiss.
Being single gave me the quality time to choose for myself and push myself to reach my actual potential.
In December 2019, I started my own venture.
Then as a way to channel the work stress, tension and stay active outside work, I also started Food Blogging from across Mumbai. I believe that a major chunk of what I could do was because I believed in myself and I had the right people with me.
Even though our society perceives me to be single and lonely, for me, it has to be one of the best phases of life which helped me bring the most important aspects of my personality to prominence.