Updated: Sep 25, 2020
Story of Aarushi Batra
I think every girl with an online presence has at least once in her life received creepy messages from absolutely strange men lurking from behind the façade of the internet.
When I had joined an NCC camp, I met this guy there, after that, we connected through Facebook, wherein he used to regularly send me jokes and memes, in turn, I would send minimalistic ‘hahas’ so as to not come across as rude.
So, one day I received a lewd rape joke from the same guy, which celebrated rape (the screenshot of which has been shared). I personally felt disgusted and asked him not to send such messages to me. I posted a screenshot of the message on my Facebook for it was really disturbing for me and the guy was constantly texting me.
And then after I posted the screenshot, I began getting a lot of calls and messages - turns out, that this guy had taken my contact number from the registration form at NCC. He not only texted and called but also asked all our mutual friends, mostly from that camp to ask me and call me to remove the post.
On being confronted the guy initially said how his Id had been hacked and when he couldn’t make enough sense out of it so he changed his statement to how he had shared his password with so many friends since two-three years and hence had no clue as to who could have done it.
We talk about feminism and equality and yet we openly share and make misogynistic, rape jokes. He was probably brought up in an environment that normalized rape and misogyny, which gave him the audacity to share such messages and misbehave with me. I am quite sure that I wasn’t the first victim of his inane behavior. I was probably just the first one who spoke up against it.
I think speaking up is important, I have blocked him and his friends from every platform now. He apologized to me and begged me to remove that post for it would ‘spoil his life’, also it wasn’t a very serious felony but isn’t it how the small felonies turn into bigger crimes.